Tolerance is one of the greatest strengths in women. For some inexplicable reason we seem to have a wellspring of it naturally built in. So what is tolerance? Is it the power to love no matter what? And what does love mean?
Love means giving and caring. Love is simple, yet we’ve made it so complicated. Love today is all about bondage – desire, dependence, strings and ropes, being tied down, expectations and requirements. But love is none of those things. When these things are present, pain is present. Where there is love there is no pain.
When a woman tolerates she puts up with things, she accepts things, she merges weaknesses and disappointments into herself. This doesn’t mean that she stays in a place that is unsafe for her or others. It means she sees the bigger picture. She understands the imperfection of everything. Her motivation for everything she does is to bring benefit. To bring harmony. To sustain peace.
Therefore if her child, her friend or her partner disappoint her. If they don’t act as they should. If they say and do things that are wrong. She tolerates it. She may not stay, but her role is to create peace, not war. She may give words of guidance and disciplilne, but she doesn’t turn things into a ‘drama’ where violence by way of words, thoughts, feelings or even actions are exchanged. She ‘holds the space’, makes her point and its finished. Everyone is left to come to their own conclusions about how they should act. Its not a matter of one being right and the other wrong. Everyone knows right from wrong – and if they don’t they better learn – there’s no need to debate it any longer than is needed.
A woman with the power of tolerance is a woman with dignity. She knows herself. She knows her place. She knows the role she’s here to play. And with that knowing, her aim in life is to be the best she can. She has clear aims and a clear direction of where she has to go. If others don’t wish to co-operate with her and become obstacles along the way, she quietly and non-violently removes them, goes over them, around or under them. Her purpose is to keep moving to where she needs to go. And she finds a non-violent way to do that.
She understands everyone is responsible for themselves. She isn’t responsible for them and they aren’t responsible for her. She knows everyone has their own role to play in the ‘play of life’ and she knows living is co-operating and that’s what we are all here to do. Its as simple as that. Anything other than that, she moves on.
Tolerating is not complaining that ‘it should be like this’. Its not comparing oneself with another, or one situation with another. And its not criticizing and condemning. Its accepting that everything is as it is, seeing what could be done to make it better, making the changes if possible, if not, then letting it be and continuing on.
Life is to be lived, enjoyed and made the most of. This is the attitude of a woman with the power of tolerance. The power of tolerance helps her take it all in, accept it all as it is and deal with it as she needs to.
Live a life with the power of tolerance and you will be known and remembered as an amazing woman.
Lots and lots of love,